“I Waited a Long Time for This Life”: Meet Charlene Perera

Fashion executive, mum and self-confessed overthinker, Charlene shares the realities of balancing career, motherhood and the beautiful chaos of everyday life.

Tell us about your family. How many Kids?

I’m a mum to one beautiful little boy, Austin. He’s three-and-a-half, full of personality, energy, big feelings and the kind of joy that completely takes over a room.

I’m surrounded by a very full, modern family life, our home is busy, loud, emotional and never boring.

And I can’t forget our two fur babies, Otto and Atlas.

What’s the part of being a mum that fills you up the most?

The love.

That sounds simple, but it really is the most extraordinary thing. The cuddles, the little conversations, the way Austin looks for me in a room. It fills a part of me that nothing else ever has.

There is something incredibly grounding about being someone’s safe place.

What’s one thing that genuinely helps you stay afloat in the day-to-day juggle?

Letting go of the idea that everything has to look perfect.

Some days are organised and calm, and some days are absolute chaos.

I’ve learned that staying afloat often means lowering the pressure, asking for help, and focusing on what actually matters that day.

Having a supportive partner in Jonathan is truly a lifesaver. We both have big jobs, so we understand the give and take that’s needed.

 

How do you carve out space for career, motherhood, love, friends, and still find a moment for you?

Honestly, imperfectly.

I have a big career, a young child, a relationship, friendships and family commitments. There are seasons where one area needs more from me than another.

I try to be really present wherever I am. When I’m at work, I’m in it. When I’m with Austin, I try to really be with him. And when I get a moment for myself, even if it’s small, I’m learning not to feel guilty for taking it.

Where do you find fashion that genuinely feels like you?

I work in fashion, so I’m surrounded by it every day, but I’ve always been drawn to pieces that have personality.

I love fashion that feels confident, feminine, a little glamorous and not too predictable. My style is very high-low. I love mixing something elevated with something more relaxed or high street.

For everyday dressing, DISSH and COS are always great go-tos, and Farfetch is where I look when I want something a little more special.

When it comes to shoes, I’ll always come back to Steve Madden and Kurt Geiger. Biased maybe, but for me they just have that personality.

What does living a healthy, grounded life look like in your world?

For me, healthy doesn’t mean perfect.

It means feeling strong enough, clear enough and calm enough to show up for my life. It’s eating well most of the time, moving my body when I can, spending quality time with Austin, Jonathan and all my favourite people, protecting my energy and being honest with myself when I’m running on empty.

How do you keep your body moving in a way that feels realistic and sustainable?

I keep it simple.

Walking Otto and Atlas, moving where I can and trying not to overcomplicate it. I’ve had to accept that this season of life doesn’t always allow for perfect routines or long workouts.

Sometimes sustainable movement is simply getting the steps in, carrying a toddler, running errands or doing something small at home.

What’s one non-negotiable that keeps your mind and body well?

Sleep, when I can get it, and quiet time.

Even a small pocket of quiet helps me reset. Jonathan brings me a sense of calm, so spending time together is always restorative.

I also need to feel like I have some control over my day, even if it’s as simple as getting dressed properly or taking ten minutes to regroup.

And when all else fails, a good sing in the car is always grounding.

When you think of ‘balance’, what does that actually mean to you in real life?

Balance isn’t everything being equal all the time. I actually think that’s impossible.

To me, balance is being able to notice when something has tipped too far and gently bring yourself back.

Some weeks work wins. Some weeks motherhood takes everything. Some weeks your relationship or your health needs more attention.

Balance is learning not to abandon yourself completely in the process.

What does your morning routine look like, honestly?

Honestly, it’s not a slow, linen-pyjama, lemon-water situation.

It’s usually a little chaotic. Walking the dogs, getting Austin organised, getting myself ready, checking messages, thinking about work and trying to get out the door feeling good, usually with a shake in hand that Jonathan has made for me because otherwise it probably wouldn’t happen.

There’s always a mental checklist running in the background.

I know that in 30 years I’ll probably long for these mornings again, so that’s always at the forefront of my mind.

Enjoying these moments with my little family as we shuffle around the house means everything.

How do you wind down at night? What does your evening routine look like?

I love coming home.

Jonathan and I always cook together and make sure we sit at the dining table as a family. It’s the centre of our home.

Once bath time and bedtime are done, there might be a late-night meeting with London, some laptop time on the couch together, or simply time to unwind.

Coming home after a day at the office is genuinely my favourite part of the day.

 

What’s something about you that would genuinely surprise people?

I think people would be surprised by how sensitive I actually am.

I can come across quite strong and direct, especially in business, but underneath that I feel things deeply. I care a lot, probably more than I let on.

My favourite thing in the world is picking Austin up from daycare. I race up the stairs to get him. There is nothing more special than seeing that little face at the end of the day.

What’s a truth about yourself that took you years to finally admit?

That I don’t have to be liked by everyone to be a good person.

That took me a long time to learn.

I used to take being misunderstood very personally, but I’ve realised you can have a good heart and still not be everyone’s cup of tea.

When do you feel most like the truest version of you?

When I’m with the people I love and I don’t have to perform.

When I’m laughing, being a little silly, talking honestly, or working in a creative space where ideas are flowing.

Whether I’m in the office, out with friends or at home, I’m only ever surrounded by my people. I’ve intentionally designed my life that way. I’m too old to spend my time any other way.

 

What’s a single moment that quietly shifted the direction of your life?

Becoming a mum.

It changed everything. Not always in loud, obvious ways, but in the way I make decisions, the way I see time, the way I understand love and the way I think about what really matters.

It changed my career, how I spend my time, and my understanding of balance.

What’s a mistake you’re genuinely grateful you made?

Staying too long in situations that weren’t right for me.

At the time, I judged myself for it, but those experiences taught me so much about my worth, my instincts and my boundaries.

Sometimes the mistake is what finally teaches you to choose yourself.

What’s one boundary that completely changed your life?

Not over-explaining myself.

I used to feel like I had to justify every decision, every feeling and every no.

Now I understand that peace often comes from saying less and trusting yourself more.

What part of yourself do you judge the most, and why do you think you do?

Probably the part of me that feels like I should always be doing more.

More as a mum. More in my career. More in my relationships. More for myself.

I can be really hard on myself. I think a lot of women carry that feeling that they’re somehow falling short, even when they’re doing so much.

I have a beautiful life surrounded by a lot of love, so learning not to be so severe on myself is an ongoing lesson.

What’s something you pretend you don’t care about, but secretly do?

Being included.

I like to think I’m very independent, and I am, but I still care about feeling considered and remembered.

I think most people do, even if we don’t always admit it.

What’s something about you that people would never guess?

That I can be quite anxious.

I’m good at getting things done and looking composed, but my mind is often running ten steps ahead. I’ve learned to function with a lot happening internally.

If you could live an entirely different life for a year, what would you choose?

I’d live somewhere on the other side of the world with lots of space and a slower rhythm.

I’d walk, cook, spend time with family and friends, enjoy long lunches under a tree and not be ruled by my inbox.

Just a year of softness and sunshine.

What’s something that still feels uncomfortable, but you’re pushing yourself to do anyway?

Letting myself be seen in a more vulnerable way.

It’s easy to share the polished parts, the work, the fashion and the happy family moments. Being honest about the messy middle is harder.

I’m learning there’s strength, connection and support in that too.

What’s a version of yourself you’re trying to become?

A calmer one.

Still ambitious. Still passionate. Still driven.

But less reactive, less hard on herself and more trusting that things can unfold without me needing to control every detail.

When you think about your younger self, what do you wish she knew?

That she was never too much.

Too emotional. Too ambitious. Too sensitive. Too loud.

The things she thought she needed to shrink are probably the very things that became her strengths.

What’s the hardest part of motherhood for you to admit out loud?

That you can be completely in love with your child and still feel exhausted, overwhelmed or like you’ve lost parts of yourself.

Motherhood is beautiful, but it’s also relentless. Admitting that doesn’t make you any less grateful.

What’s a small joy that gets you through this season of life?

Our home life.

The everyday rhythm with Jonathan and Austin.

I don’t feel like I’m in survival mode. I feel genuinely grateful for the life we’ve built. I love where we live, and that we’re surrounded by my sisters and my parents.

It’s the ordinary moments that mean the most. Austin saying something funny, a cuddle at the end of the day, or simply feeling safe, settled and loved with my little family around me.

I waited a long time for this life, so I never take it for granted.

The Five Things In My Bag I Can’t Leave Home Without

  1. My Phone
    Very boring, but very true. Between work, family, messages, my wallet, photos of Austin and my calendar, my whole life is basically in there.
  2. Fragrance and Deodorant
    I always have a scent with me, even if it’s just a travel-size perfume. Right now it’s Thé Noir by Le Labo, along with my We Are Wild deodorant stick.
  3. Sunglasses
    A good pair of sunglasses makes even the most thrown-together outfit feel intentional. My current favourites are my Loewe Butterfly frames.
  4. Lipstick
    I’m not someone who tops up makeup during the day, but a fresh lip always makes me feel more put together. Mine is Charlotte Tilbury Pillow Talk Medium.
  5. Curling Cream
    As a curly-haired girl, I always carry a travel-size Aveda Be Curly Curl Enhancer.

And a bonus sixth item…

A snack and water bottle for Austin. Mum life means there’s almost always something floating around in my bag for him. Not glamorous, but very real.

Visit, Buy, Do

Visit

Somewhere glamorous and sun-drenched by the water. The South of France, perhaps. Somewhere that makes you want to wear beautiful dresses, enjoy long lunches and completely slow down.

Buy

A forever piece. Probably a beautiful piece of jewellery or an incredible designer bag that I’d keep forever and associate with a special chapter of life.

Do

A perfect day with my little family. Sunshine, a long lunch, a walk by the water, a little shopping and getting dressed up for dinner.

No rushing. Just presence.